One of your best writings man. I've try to teach something similar to my girls. It's wild in western culture to say "No thank you, I don't want to" but leave out the excuse. The reactions are priceless.
This also helps to stop perpetuating the "excuse engine" powering most interactions
Yeah - I think one of the problems with the excuse engine is people start to think in excuses rather than root cause, when the root cause is more interesting and more important. If you practice thinking in root cause, you’ll be easier to communicate with IMO.
Absolutely. When presented with something they’d rather not do, many are now wired to start by mentally scrolling through the available excuses to offer up. Sticking with the root cause is more interesting, important, and even more likable.
In personal relationships I also tend to find it easier to trust or rely on root cause types over the excuse engine types
One of your best writings man. I've try to teach something similar to my girls. It's wild in western culture to say "No thank you, I don't want to" but leave out the excuse. The reactions are priceless.
This also helps to stop perpetuating the "excuse engine" powering most interactions
Yeah - I think one of the problems with the excuse engine is people start to think in excuses rather than root cause, when the root cause is more interesting and more important. If you practice thinking in root cause, you’ll be easier to communicate with IMO.
Absolutely. When presented with something they’d rather not do, many are now wired to start by mentally scrolling through the available excuses to offer up. Sticking with the root cause is more interesting, important, and even more likable.
In personal relationships I also tend to find it easier to trust or rely on root cause types over the excuse engine types
Boundaries are vital for our own wellbeing, and it is a kindness to ourselves and others indeed.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the subject and how you have successfully implemented a solution.
That is a kindness as well, Billy. 🤍