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Mo Amin's avatar

This resonates a lot with me. My parents divorced when I was young too and me being the youngest I was at home with mum and she is definitely one of the biggest worriers I know. Looking back, I do think I would have grown up a lot quicker and been much more responsible if she didn’t entertain all of my insecurities and supposed health concerns. Having a strong father figure in a household is something that is definitely very much needed to give the right balance. Well… at least we will be good fathers and know what to do if our kids ever go through something similar. We just need to have some first 😂. Was super happy to get this notification. Hopefully we get another article soon 🙏🏻

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Shibetoshi Nakamoto's avatar

yeah - it’s definitely complicated, and my mom being the way she was I think was great for when I was very young, I always felt safe and cared for and smart and capable

I think it’s just so unintuitive that for some things a little bit of “tough love” can be better - my dad and his mom both subscribed more to that, and as a kid it felt harsh, but I appreciated it a lot more later

balance is a good word for this kind of thing - too much in one direction is leading to a lot of mental illness that isn’t being addressed I think

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Nic Travers's avatar

"What makes you think you are not good enough to pass", taking your kid for their driving license test. I see this phenomena in adults as well. Thank you for shining a light on the victim mentality.

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Shibetoshi Nakamoto's avatar

Definitely! Appreciate your words!

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Giulia Grotenhuis's avatar

Good read. Thanks for sharing.

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Shibetoshi Nakamoto's avatar

Thank you!

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Biggirlpants's avatar

Thank you for post. I always enjoy reading your articles :) Same happened to me in my very early twenties (collage) and after several visits to different doctors, I finally got diagnosed with hyperventilation.. the cure.. breath into a brown paper bag. I felt stupid.

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Shibetoshi Nakamoto's avatar

Yeah, I remember when I realized that I had just been being a hypochondriac I had a minor breakdown. But it's good, overall. Better to face the truth than to keep doubling down on a false reality.

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